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Low self-esteem ALWAYS forms in childhood. The attitudes and degree of health of the parent will be passed on to the child.

Symptoms and Consequences of
Low Self-Esteem

Cognitive Symptoms & Consequences of Low Self-Esteem

Emotional Symptoms & Consequences of Low Self-Esteem

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Behavioral Symptoms & consequences of Low Self-Esteem

Signs of Confidence & Healthy Self-Esteem:


Comments from a reader

As a former superintendent of schools, I am aware that self-esteem is a critical element in the emotional and intellectual development of young people and I wish that all parents, teachers, counselors, and administrators understood what young people with low self-esteem experience — what they think and feel on a daily basis... so they would be able to recognize the signs that a child is struggling with this problem... A step toward that end is the book, Breaking the Chain of Low Self-Esteem, by Portland clinical psychologist, Marilyn J. Sorensen, Ph.D. Probably the best book ever written on this issue for the general public, Breaking the Chain of Low Self-Esteem thoroughly explores this complex subject in clear, succinct, and easily understandable language. It provides steps to understanding and working on the problem...and is a fascinating read. This is a book everyone should read—including teenagers.

Zan Freeburn

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Questions and Answers about Low Self-Esteem (LSE)

1. What is Low Self-Esteem?

• Low self-esteem is actually a thinking disorder in which an individual views (thinks of) himself as inadequate, unacceptable, unworthy, unlovable, and/or incompetent—thinking that permeates every aspect of a person’s life.

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2. How and when does low self-esteem develop?

• Low Self-Esteem ALWAYS forms in childhood when the individual is developing an initial view of how he or she, as a person, fits into the world. This process begins at birth and may continue to be cemented up to age 8 or 10.

3. Why do therapists have so little understanding of what low self-esteem is or how to treat low self-esteem?

• Unfortunately, therapists are not taught about the significance of low self-esteem nor of the seriousness of its impact on individual’s lives.

4. Can one recover from this issue? Even, if he or she is older? What is the process and how long does it take?

• Most definitely!! Anyone motivated to get over this problem can do so, if the person is determined, persevering, and has patience. Dr. Sorensen has developed the Sorensen Self-Esteem Recovery Program that has proven to be high effective in altering the thinking and ultimately the lives of those who suffer from LSE.

5. How would I know if I have low self-esteem?

• Take the Sorensen (Interactive) Self-Esteem Test on this page and other pages on this website. No one can see your answers.

These are but some of the symptoms of low self-esteem.

6. Who suffers from low self-esteem?

• Low self-esteem is a serious disorder that affects millions of people, destroying relationships, paralyzing people with fear and creating lives that will never reach their full potential, and leaving them off balance, needy, and unfilled.

7. Can a person tell if others have low self-esteem?

• You can not necessarily tell that a person has low self-esteem because many who have low self esteem become experts at hiding their feelings and maintaining the appearance of control, even though this is not what they feel on the inside. In fact, many very successful people in high level careers actually suffer from low self-esteem, though only those close to them are aware of they have low self esteem.

Dr. Sorensen believes the following about low self-esteem:

  1. Low self-esteem is actually a thinking disorder in which an individual views himself as inadequate, unworthy, unlovable, and/or incompetent. Once formed, this negative view of self permeates every thought, producing faulty assumptions and ongoing self-defeating behavior.
  2. Low self-esteem should be included in the diagnostic manual (that is utilized by all therapists to determine diagnoses). Instead, it is frequently mentioned as a symptom of many other disorders, which is backwards: low self-esteem is the disorder, not merely the symptom.
  3. Low self-esteem always forms in childhood, when an individual is developing his initial view of himself and his attributes. Once formed, low self esteem cannot be overcome without going through a recovery process.
  4. A person cannot merely "raise" one's low self-esteem and transform it into healthy self-esteem. Instead a person has to learn to alter his basic view of self and transform his thinking and attitudes, which is not a simple process or a quick fix.
  5. Low self-esteem is a serious disorder that affects millions of people--both men and women--destroying their relationships, paralyzing them with fear, and creating lives that will never reach their full potential, leaving them off balance, needy, and unfulfilled.
  6. Unfortunately, like the general public, most therapists are misinformed about low self-esteem and it's consequences and therefore, don't know how to treat it. Many people go to therapy for this issue and leave feeling hopeless about their lives and disillusioned about therapy.

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Marie from Scotland

Why aren't more Therapists trained in the aspect low self esteem as it relates to mental health? Everything Sorensen says, makes perfect sense. I have never read a book which offers such insight into specific emotional problems. Sorensen's experience and insights "blew me away." Her insights at times seem more of a "telepathic nature," than that of a therapist. This woman could very easily "re-write" the whole therapeutic approach. So many more people would benefit, if she did!!

Once low self-esteem is formed, it can only be overcome through a process of recovery. Dr. Sorensen has developed the only known program to do that--one that is extremely effective and is spelled out through the three books above.

Dr. Sorensen has made it her life's goal to observe and study low self-esteem. As a result, she has been able to recognize the causes, the symptoms, and the self-defeating patterns common to all low self esteem sufferers.

Reading her books will enable you to understand:

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The Impact of Low Self-Esteem In an Individual's Personal Life

Low Self-Esteem is a contributing factor in most cases involving:

The Impact of Low Self-Esteem In an Individual's Relationships

LSE in the BedroomRelationships are greatly affected by low self-esteem. Those with low self-esteem tend to become either aggressive, passive, or passive-aggressive when threatened. They become defensive and argumentative or they withdraw and isolate, behaviors which do not contribute to healthy communication. Additionally, those with low self-esteem tend to be confused about who and when to trust and often make poor choices in partners. Intimacy becomes difficult to achieve and maintain due to these and other factors.

Preventing Low Self-Esteem In Children

Low Self-Esteem can form in childhood as the result of:

LSE in childrenLow self-esteem begins in childhood. The major contributors to low self-esteem are parents, teachers, child-care workers, grandparents, siblings, peers, and other relatives and authorities in the child's life. Parents, however, have the best and most consistent opportunity to influence the view a child has of himself.

Most parents try to be good parents. Unfortunately, however, most parents rely on their own childhood, their intuition, and their own sense of what works to determine how to treat their children; many simply repeat the mistakes their own parents made.

For this very reason and due to many requests for guidance in building healthy self-esteem in children, Dr. Sorensen has written The Handbook for Building Healthy Self-Esteem in Children. This book is a resource that you will use again and again in considering if you are doing the best you can to instill healthy self-esteem in your child.

Please feel free to contact Dr. Sorensen with any questions concerning low self-esteem, her books, and her recovery program.